I have been asked more than once to explain "why Jennie is our founder"....
It’s very easy to explain, you see it was her determination and courage that
opened that very first care center door. After coming together in August
1988 we both learned: to trust again, and see hope in a future. ‘To me the
future was anything but clear, but to Jennie, it was simply a matter of when
and where.
After I had lost my Mom in February 1988, after she had been in and out of
so many care centers and hospitals, the last place I was ever going again
was one of ‘those places’. I tried to forget all of those faces watching and
waiting for their families to come visit them. More times than not, no one
ever came. Through my Mom I got to know these people who would soon turn in
to her friends. Instead of the usual things my Mom needed soon there were
these extras, just because you’re coming anyway, and brought them, always
wondering where the family members were to these wonderful people. Just
because my Mom’s legs were gone and her left side was paralyzed she was
always my Mom, my best friend. I could not figure out why so many were left
alone just watching out the windows or listening for a familiar voice from
family. My Mom and I tried: to figure that out and neither one of us could.
Before he passed away on July 4th 1981, I promised my Dad I would take care
of my Mom. They shared the ‘once in a lifetime’ love many never find. The
following January she suffered the 1st of three strokes. Her Doctors were
convinced she just gave up. Life didn’t seem to matter to her without him. I
would like to tell you everything was fine after some time had passed but it
wasn’t. Unfortunately, my family was not understanding. Their definition of
understanding was trying to figure out their ‘inheritance’. To this day
there is no communication with them.
When my Mom passed away in February 1988 I was in a horrible way. For those
seven years since my Dad passed away my Mom and I had some great times and
some awful times. One August day I was told of a Great Dane puppy that was
to be destroyed: because it was mean and out of control. Would I go ‘look
‘at it? Famous last words to this day. Little did I know this beaten little
six month old Great Dane would completely change my life. And I’m very proud
to say, the lives of thousands of people. When we first met it was outside
and she wouldn’t come near me. I’m sure she was convinced I would beat her
as her owners did. I sat down to try to get her to come to me. She ran
around scared and finally came over trembling as if to say “don’t hurt me’’.
After 5 years of trusting each other, learning just when it was ‘time’ for
another treat, and finding out that life was wonderful we drove to a care
center. I remembered all those waiting for someone to visit, and I wanted to
share this magnificent animal that had absolutely saved my life. The
conversation getting to the care center was one for the record books. Upon
pulling into the parking lot I was talking at least a million miles a minute
and she was listening to every word, this I just knew, I could see it in her
eyes. We approached this black mat that would open the 1st door that led to
the 2nd door and then we would be in.
I suddenly felt a wave of terror and knew I could not do this. Not after all
those years and all those lonesome faces. I began to turn away just inches
from that 1st mat and headed towards the truck. All of a sudden Jennie
pulled me back around and literally forced me into this place. After we were
inside she went over and put her head in this elderly lady’s lap as if to
say “I’m here for you” and she looked at me as if to say “be my voice and I
will be your strength”. I did and she was. So you see…I wanted to run away,
she knew we had to stay. These are the facts of the beginning of Paws for
Friendship, Incorporated.
On November 8, 1999 our Beloved founder passed away Her heart and soul
continue to guide this organization. Thank you for joining and making such
a difference in so many lives.
Always will be,
Jennie’s Mom, Jan